“You need to argue more with your wife.” I couldn’t believe that this was what my therapist was suggesting. Wasn’t I paying him to help me stop arguing with my wife? After all, the increased intensity of our disagreements was what landed me in therapy in the first place.

But it turns out that sometimes, we don’t know what’s best for our marriages. Sometimes, strengthening your marriage isn’t exactly intuitive. If it were, we’d all have great marriages, wouldn’t we? Here are 5 counterintuitive choices that can strengthen your marriage.


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