I often grab an early morning coffee with a friend so we can listen to each other’s lives. The other day, it was a “life is hard” heart-to-heart with one of the younger guys from church. Mostly, we talked about school-aged children, stress at home, and failed relationships. “What’s the dumbest thing you’ve heard a man say about his marriage?” he asked. My answer came without a second thought: “Two things,” I said. “’Right now, it’s all about the kids,’ and, ‘The children are our priority—we’ll take care of us later.’” It always surprises me that people don’t know why your spouse should come first.
Seriously, if I hear “we put the children first” one more time, I just might go all Mike Tyson. Because if the children are prioritized ahead of the marriage, you’re likely going to lose her and the kids both. The marriage is the priority, or there will be no “us” and no “later!” Here are 6 reasons to put your marriage before your kids.
