Okay, men. You get home from work, walk in the door, and your wife starts talking about her day. Frustrations with her boss at work, her lunch with a friend, and challenges with a child are the first things she shares. Somewhere in the midst of her words, you slowly tune out, look down at your phone, and let your mind wander to other things. You might think she doesn’t notice, but she does. By not keeping eye contact and engaging with her, she senses that you don’t care and that you think something else is more important.

Being a good listener is something I’ve struggled with for a long time. I’m a bottom line kind of guy, so the fewer the words to make a point, the better. But over our 28 years of marriage, Susan has taught me how to be a better listener, although she would tell you I’ve got a long way to go. So, whether your wife is sharing her deepest secrets or simply venting to you about her day, not listening to your wife when she talks can have several consequences, some of which I’ve experienced at times. Here are 4 things that happen when you don’t listen to your wife.


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