She left the house, took the car, and I thought she was never coming back. How did we get here? What did I miss? We’d just had a baby. Our daughter was healthy, happy, and clung to me. I was knee-deep in chores, ensuring all of our family’s physical needs were met. But in doing so, I had overlooked something fundamental: my wife’s emotional well-being. I didn’t know what postpartum meant, and I thought the more I took off her plate, the better she would feel—just the opposite. It caused emotional distance. The more I took, the more she felt unwanted and abandoned.

It was never my intention to hurt my wife. But sometimes, even when we’re trying to help, we make our wives feel unseen, misunderstood, or abandoned. Here are 4 ways you might be abandoning your wife without realizing it.


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