I was at a friend's birthday party, hosted by a couple I didn't know very well. While walking around to check on my wife, I overheard the host couple having an argument. The husband said, "You need to stop acting like a crazy person." There was no humor in it. He was angry. Later, I thought about it. Imagine if he'd said something like that to his boss, his best friend, or even a stranger. So why would he say that to his person? Before you hear me being too judgy, I'll admit I've said things to my wife Nancie that would sound just as bad if someone overheard them. We've all heard the phrase "taking it out on your wife," but most of us never stop to ask what "it" actually is. It's the frustration, insecurity, and fear we don't want to carry, so we take it out on our wife instead. Funny enough, our boss can make us just as angry, but somehow we tap int...