Comedian Leanne Morgan has a bit about Christmas that hits a little too close to home: "I don't mean to sound like everything falls on me. But everything falls on me. I do all the decorating, the cooking, the cleaning, the wrapping, the shopping." Last Christmas Eve, her husband finally asked if he could help with anything. Her answer: "I'm gonna beat you to death." I laughed, but then I thought I deserved to be beaten to death. I've been that husband asking the almost-right question at absolutely the wrong time. That's one of the reasons December can be so full of tension for couples. So often wives end up doing all things Christmas while the rest of her family just has to show up for it. Nobody notices until they do. Avoiding fights with your wife at Christmas starts with answers that come from questions asked long before the 24th. It starts with us showing up together to face a season that seems to be designed to take us out. It starts with how we divide the season, not just t...