In early elementary school, I never knew what version of my kid would get off the bus. Some days, she'd step down on the sidewalk all smiles, toss me her backpack, and race home with her best friend who lived across the street. Other days, she'd snarl and huff and puff her way home, where she'd dissolve into a meltdown the moment the front door clicked shut. Eventually, I found out about "after-school restraint collapse." Psychologists use this term to describe what happens when young kids spend the day following rules, navigating social situations, and keeping big feelings in check. It all spills out when they finally get home-their safe place. If after-school meltdowns are becoming a familiar (and frustrating) part of your routine, here's how to help your child unwind after school in ways that invite calm and connection. 1.  Know the signs of his impending meltdown. "Stay weather aware." That's what meteorologists in my area say during tornado...