Ted Lowe is on staff with Family First as a writer, speaker, and podcast host. He is also the founder of For Us Marriage and has written three books. His most recent book is Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage. Ted is a frequent conference and date night speaker at churches and events across the country, and he is a graduate of Fuller Theological Seminary. He and his wife, Nancie, have four kids and live in Cumming, GA.   I'll be honest. There have been seasons in our marriage when I kept score. I'd give myself points if I did extra chores. I took away points from my wife, Nancie, if she didn't do what I thought she should. I'm sure it started in a small way, perhaps when I was frustrated or confused about life. It made me feel better about myself. I felt justified in who I was and how I was living. But keeping score in a relationship is playing a game nobody wins, and nothing good comes from it. In fact, it's often a marriage...