My wife and I have been working in the foster care system for about five years. In all the situations we’ve seen, chaos is the common factor. Many of the kids have been left to parent themselves because their parents were absent, uncaring, or simply unable to serve that role. And, of course, without effort, everything tends toward chaos (see a teenager’s bedroom).

And while too much order can be overbearing, not enough order can leave a child insecure and unnerved. The right boundaries create a sense of safety and direction. When you don’t provide those boundaries for kids, their worlds can descend into chaos. Here are 5 ways you can create chaos in your child’s world.


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