Can a bad attitude really kill your marriage? Yes! Attitude affects the way we communicate with our husband; so if our attitude toward him is negative, that’s how we’ll sound when we’re talking with him.

Mark and I work together every day which makes having a loving attitude really hard. One day when I was out with our daughter Emily running errands, I called Mark from the car. He answered the phone with, “Ya, what do you need?” Well, I had him on blue tooth and Emily piped up with, “Hi, Daddy!” Mark’s tone did a 180. It went from snippy and sour to sappy sweet. And he answered with, “Hi, baby! How are you? Daddy misses you sooooooo much.”

At that moment my attitude toward Mark did a 180. Ugh. And I realized… a bad attitude was killing my marriage.

I love Mark and he loves me, but it is so easy to let daily annoyances infiltrate that love and poison our marriage. It is a slow death. I must do better! If you find yourself struggling with your attitude toward your husband, here are a few things to think about when communicating with him.

Your tone can transform your words.

Mark and I have intense personalities and it comes through in the tone we use when we talk to each other. We both grew up in competitive families and we brought that intensity into our marriage. We have to remind ourselves that hitting the productivity target is counter-productive if we kill our relationships on the way. I look for couples who are sweet and kind and try to learn from their tone when they talk to each other.


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